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Where to draw the line?

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While watching the "Privacy Matters" episode of House, I was first very excited to see Laura Prepon acting again, having not seen her in anything since I stopped watching "That '70s Show."  After that, I was frankly concerned with her character's behavior.  I frankly like her reasoning, that we as people behave better when we know we're being judged.  I think it's very much like one of the theoretical articles we read earlier this semester where the blogger altered his habits because he was blogging and sharing them with the internet.

However, my concern was with Frankie sharing their fight and other major discussions that she and Taylor had together with the internet.   Of course it's her life, and she's welcome to blog about it, but it's also her boyfriend's/husband's life.  He made it very clear he did not want his life written about and scrutinized to the same degree that her's is.  So at what point does it become his life rather than her own life, because that is the point at which I personally think it becomes inappropriate to discuss someone else.

For instance, you wouldn't reveal your best friend's secrets to the world, whether she asks you to keep it to yourself or not.  And if she specifically asks you not to share it, why would you?  Yet, when Taylor asks Frankie to keep their fight to herself, it's already too late.  Or when Taylor asks Frankie not to ask for others' opinions for her medical decision, she disregards her opinion, even though he is clearly the most influential person in her life.  It's not until the end that Frankie is capable of making decisions on her own, without her readers' influence.  Again, at what point does it become her own life, and not their lives?  It's clear she found a line that she would not cross, but would she have found that line if she hadn't been ill?  We may never know.

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