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"Maybe we could evolve so as to see disruption not as a frightening and undesirable intrusion into the way things are (and are supposed to be) but rather as an opportunity to create new ways of being?"
I really like this line. It makes me look at my relationships and choices differently. I spent half of my (admittedly short) life trying to be a perfect granddaughter for my crazy grandmother and the other half rebelling so that she would notice me. Recently, I decided to just break away from that relationship and not let the things she say bother me. I stay away from her toxicity and essentially treat her as if she doesn't exist. Now, I am much happier and less worried about what she thinks. I don't change who I am in order to receive attention from the woman. I exist happily because I broke away from her influence on me. At the time I didn't know what I was doing. I was so tired and couldn't deal with her issues anymore. Now I know that I broke away from her in order to create a "new way of being" that allowed me to enjoy life.