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Bullying Group: Angela, Judith, Jack and Joyce

There are 3 targets (bullies, victims and observer) that can be addressed regarding the problem of bullying.

One common scenario is to convince the bullies that their behavior is not appropriate and as so must end. However if the bully's behavior is first generated in her cognitive unconscious as a response to an ‘irritation’ caused by the different behavior of the victim, then the bully will only recognize her storyteller’s generated version of why she must attack the victim until they go away and stop causing an unbalance to her accepted group culture. Her story works for her and others as the dominant members of the culture.

The victim has also generated a story as a result of cues from her cognitive unconscious that causes her to follow her own ‘true’ behavior. She has no idea why she is being attacked and is not aware of being out of balance to others. And if she does recognize why her story irritates others, she can't easily access her cognitive unconscious to change her story. 

There has been some success with empowering the observers because perhaps because their cognitive unconscious is experiencing both stories and may be able to be influenced in the generation of a story that will help the victim.

The other potentially successful method could be to develop strategies that the victim might accept so as to diffuse the irritation of others (in their cognitive unconscious) and create better balance around her.